Abysmal sadness

It is with great sorrow that I tell you a friend of mine has lost her newly born baby son. He died of a respiratory failure, due to a lung infection. It happened terribly, terribly fast. I am sorrier for her loss than I can convey, and cannot imagine how she is coping with a such soul-lacerating agony. Your prayers and/or kind thoughts are appreciated.

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13 Responses to Abysmal sadness

  1. How gut wrentchingly awful. my thoughts and prayers are with them.

  2. How devastating. I am so, so sorry. I will be praying for her and her family.

  3. tinapj says:

    This poem, called “No”, just exploded out of me as I read this blog. I hope you don’t mind me posting it.

    Oh God. You don’t exist.
    You can’t exist to do this to me.
    Too cruel, too hard.
    Too hard.
    I don’t want to know, don’t want to hear it.
    No.
    No.
    NO.

    My baby, my child, my reason for.
    Bile rises, I want to hurt everything.
    Everyone.
    Every smiling face.
    Every happy laugh.
    Every other child.
    Gone.

    Taken away from me.
    Why?
    What reason could there be?
    No life lived yet, no love left.
    Take me.
    It should have been me.
    Why wasn’t it me?

    Anger, hate, hurt, pain, tears.
    Guilt.
    What should I have done?
    What could I have done?
    What would I have done?
    Differently.
    If only…

    No.
    It’s not real.
    It didn’t happen.
    My child is still here.
    Not gone.
    No.

    © Tina Price-Johnson 1.3.12
    (if anyone wants to steal it, that is absolutely fine)

  4. Kate George says:

    I’m so sorry. FGBVs to all involved.

  5. Robin S. says:

    {{{HUGS}}} and FGBV’s to your friend and her family.

  6. German Chocolate Betty says:

    I can’t even imagine where to start…so sorry, so tragic. Virtual hugs.

  7. Monica/Braless Betty says:

    I will pray for her. I know what this feels like, I lost my baby son too and it nearly destroyed me. There were bereavement groups available to me but I didn’t have the strength to find them and go to them. Someone should have taken me my the hand and brought me to them but no one truly knows the pain and the danger this kind of grief can cause unless they’ve gone through it. I was alone in my despair and no one knew enough to help. If you know any of her family, please, please encourage them to take her for help. Tell her my heart goes out to her. If you need me for anything please let me know.

    • Betty Fokker says:

      The kind of agony parents who lose a child must experience is terrible beyond what words can convey. I am so very sorry for your loss. I will try to get that message to her.

  8. Carol says:

    So very sorry. I cannot imagine the pain. Love and Prayers to your friend and family.

  9. I’m so sorry for your friend. I can’t fathom the pain. Words are inadequate, so I’m sending love and prayers.

  10. Oh no! I cannot fathom this it is too terrible. Love light and prayers and soo soo soo very ineffably sorry

  11. lunarmom says:

    Sending my love, because that’s all I can do.
    Julie

  12. Bekka says:

    I’m so sorry, losing a baby is so incredibly devastating – just goes to show that no matter where you are in the world or how good your care is, no one is immune from this kind of pain. I hope she finds some kind of peace.

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