I could give a shit less about Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson’s breakup. Seriously. I haven’t read the Twilight books and I haven’t seen the movies. I have only read academic articles about the phenomenon, and know just enough to be repelled by the idea of stalking-as-romance and utterly grossed out by the idea of a five year old in a 18 year old body marrying her mom’s old boyfriend.
But that is neither here nor there.
It is the double standard and the level of social ostracism Stewart received after she was busted having an affair with a Rupert Sanders, a married director almost twice her age, that is getting my goat. Yes, it is disgusting that she slept with a married guy (I don’t judge ployamorous couples but I dislike cheaters intensely, because they hurt people) but she is the only one getting massive fallout over it.
Like this excellent article in the Huffington Post pointed out the fact that only Kristen Stewart is being punished, both in her career and in her public life, is problematic because of culture of slut shaming that the Kristen Stewart scandal represents and it hurts girls and women.
“I am concerned for all the young women today who are tuned into this scandal, ones who are learning that it’s not okay to screw up, ever. Chris Brown can publicly beat the hell out of his girlfriend but still be played on the radio and win Grammys. However, if you ever cheat on your boyfriend, your life is over and no one will ever want to be associated with you. Almost no one will blame the much-older guy you cheated with, and it might actually make him more famous and help his career. Few will care that he was your boss and in a position of authority or that he may have have taken advantage of your youth and relative inexperience. Everything is your fault, and your life will be threatened over it. If you are a trampire, you will be publicly staked for it, even though cheater Ashton Kutcher recently emerged relatively unscathed by the media. No one asked for him to be fired from Two and a Half Men.”
Meanwhile, the possibility that Pattinson was cheating on Kristen Stewart multiple times for years (with photos to back it up, BTW) has appeared but seldom in the media. I guess it is not that big a deal if Pattinson falls into every vagina he meet and even does a few dudes, because men can’t help it. They are totally enslaved by their junk and it is never their fault if they make the beast with two backs; it is always the fault of that hose-beast that let them have the sex instead of keeping the HooHa under lock and key like good girls in order to save men from themselves.
I call bullshit on the double standard.