I read a blog called In Bed With Married Women, because it is always thought provoking and usually funny to boot. Earlier this week she posted about a book she had just read that was written by a “Pickup Artist” who calls himself the extremely lame name of “Style”.
Here are the paragraphs that stood out the most for me:
pick-up artists (PUAs) who–with the laser-focus characteristic of their geekdom–have broken down all aspects of social interaction into identifiable and repeatable chunks. PUAs work with manipulation, an understanding of natural human tendencies (seeking approval, wanting unique experiences, etc…) and sometimes a bit of waking hypnosis to work towards an “f-close,” that is, a fuck close.
PUAs have developed their own jargon honed over years of “field reports,” that is, sharing what worked or didn’t work during nights of “sarging” (picking up chicks). Going over and talking to a group of three people is “opening a three-set.” The girl you want is your “target.” To get her, you must become the Alpha Male of the group by entertaining the group at large while–at first–pointedly ignoring your target. When you finally decide to gift her with some attention, you toss her a “neg” or sort of meanish comment– “Do you always interrupt people like that?” or “You would look good if you wore your hair up.” In other words, you start fucking with her mind, playing on her insecurities, making yourself the arbiter of what she’s doing right or wrong, and soon she’ll be pressing you for an f-close.
Oh, there’s more.
—False time constraints: Creating a false time constraint (“I can only talk to you for five minutes”) relieves a woman of wondering how she’s going to get rid of a PUA, yet also gives her a sense that she must vie for the PUA’s attention so that he won’t leave.
–Demonstrating Value: A PUA will carry around a pre-selected group of photos designed to portray him in a flattering light. (Picture with beautiful woman = desirability, picture on a boat = sporty, etc…)
–The Takeaway: If a PUA is making out with a woman, but she changes her mind about progressing things further, a PUA hops out of bed, and ignores her by checking email or something. The woman, feeling she has screwed up and lost the PUA, will try to lure him back to bed.
–Chick crack: Chicks love fortune telling, ESP games and other psychological tests.
There is just not enough eeewwwwwww in the world to describe my reaction to the PUAs goals and the manipulation of the their “targets”. The language the PUAs use about the HUMAN BEINGS they want to have sex with so dehumanizing it beggars the imagination. Those women aren’t considered people … they are just objects to be bamboozled into giving up the prize. It is like it is some sort of online fantasy game where character has to trick elves to steal their gold and the character with the most gold wins. Except the “elves” are real live people with thoughts and feelings and emotions who can be hurt and the gold is an act of physical intimacy that SHOULD be pleasurable for the elf as well as the trickster/thief, but I suspect isn’t.
I think the real “prize” for the PUA isn’t sex per se … it is feeling powerful after having ‘scored’ sex off the ‘enemy’. And I do think the targets are treated as an enemy to vanquish. Clearly these PUA hate women. Women are just sub-human bitches who have selfishly failed to fork over the desired poontang on demand in the past, but now the PUA is getting even by using psychological warfare to get the goods. The idea that women are people, that they should enjoy sex, is not something the PUA gives even a gnat sized shit about. Also, forming a bond with a woman, having an actual relationship, and having sex as a benefit of that shared mutual attraction and desire is clearly not a goal. Nope. The goal is get a f-close. That is all those women are. An f-close to be gotten. The fact that the vagina is connected to a person isn’t even a thing for the PUA.
How miserably shallow do you have to be to think of other humans this way??
I will be getting those books one day, and I will give them to my girls to read, study, and even memorize. There is every indication that my daughters are going to be beautiful, and thus they will be potential “targets” for these vile non-men, and I want them to know what kind of bullshit to look for. Sweet Babou is ready to become Amish in order to keep his baby girls away from the kind of asshats who think of them as meat, but I think knowledge will be a sufficient weapon to keep the smucks at bay.
Well, that and pepper spray.
UPDATE: Best XKCD comic EVER!!