Hobby Lobby Hypocrisy

As you all have doubtless heard, the SCOTUS recently found in favor of Hobby Lobby in Sebelius v/s Hobby Lobby. In a nutshell, Hobby Lobby can now offer health insurances that does not cover women’s contraceptives.

Some people think this is about abortion.  Hobby Lobby founder and CEO David Green wrote in an open letter in 2013 smugly declaring that, “Being Christians, we don’t pay for drugs that might cause abortions, which means that we don’t cover emergency contraception, the morning-after pill or the week-after pill … We believe doing so might end a life after the moment of conception, something that is contrary to our most important beliefs.”

That’s bullshit.

For one thing, Plan B and/or an IUD are NOT things that cause abortions. They MAY sometimes prevent the implantation of the fertilized egg into the uterine wall, but so can birth control pills. Been on the pill? Then STFU about the “evils” of Plan B and IUDs because you are every bit as “guilty” of “killing babies”.

Hobby Lobby facts

The real issue here is that “A provision in the Affordable Care Act requires corporations to offer insurance plans that meet minimum coverage standards if those corporations take advantage of tax benefits for compensating employees in health insurance, rather than wages. But the owners of Hobby Lobby and Conestoga Wood Specialties Store, a Pennsylvania wood manufacturer, challenged this provision, arguing that it violated their religious freedom.”

Hobby Lobby could have chosen to deny all employees health insurance and allowed them to get private insurance via Obamacare. However, Hobby Lobby wanted the tax break for offering health insurance while NOT following the rules of the tax break. Entitled much?

Aside from the fact that it isn’t about abortion, it’s also piss poor interpretation of the Constitution. Ruth Bader Ginsburg nails it in her dissent, but lets sum it up in a way that should strike fear in the heart of every American who is even vaguely interested in freedom.

Other people can now make medical choices for you based on their religious values.

What else ‘counts’ under this ruling?

Hobby Lobby snark

If this had been an Islamic-owned company demanding the same thing the Far Right would have shit themselves to death. They would have flipped inside out as their intestines emptied. What if an Islamic boss “sincerely believes” that it violates HIS religion if his non-Islamic female staff don’t cover their hair? This ruling means he could order them to cover their heads because of his sincere convictions. Boy, won’t the Far Right Twatwaffles love that if that happens!

Then there is the hypocrisy of it all. Y’all know how I feel about hypocrisy.

  • Hobby Lobby still offers, with nary a peep, health insurance that covers vasectomies and Viagra and penis pumps.
  • David Green, intrepid CEO of Hobby Lobby, has only three children. Hmmmm … better make sure your wife didn’t take birth control pills (AKA slut tabs) or you were aiding and abetting abortions.
  • David Green, intrepid CEO of Hobby Lobby, is worth $5.1 BILLION. Jesus was all about giving to the poor and harped on the fact Mammon sucks. In Matthew 19:24 Jesus warned that “Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God.” In Matthew 19:21 Jesus instructed a rich man that “If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”
  • Christianity and preventing abortions are separate things. Jesus says NOTHING about abortions and the Old Testament is clear that a miscarried fetus is NOT the same as a baby/child/person. It is a complex issue. Christians are found in both the Pro Choice and Anti Choice camps.
  • Hobby Lobby gets the stuff it sells from China, because it is cheaper. China not only supports abortions, it forces women to have one upon occasion.
  • Hobby Lobby doesn’t mind abortions when there is money to be made. As reported in Forbes, “Mother Jones has uncovered numerous investments on the part of Hobby Lobby’s retirement fund in a wide variety of companies producing abortion and contraception related products.”

My, but the hypocrisy is DEEP in Hobby Lobby.

What does Jesus have to say about hypocrisy, boys and girls? By Golly, it turns out that He really, really disliked hypocrisy! Entire chapters, such as Matthew 23, are devoted to trash talking hypocrites! Jesus said “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.”

So worrying about abortion but not the health and wellbeing of all humans? Not practicing what you preach?

Woe to you, David Green.

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My Lilo is So Vulnerable

Today, when I was dropping my sweet little Lilo off at day camp, I overheard something that made my stomach cramp. She threw a frisbee to a boy and another boy, a “cool” sardonic tween, holler “nice throw Lilo” in the most sarcastic voice possible.

It was so sarcastic that even I got the inflection. (I asked Stitch and she confirmed that yes, the kid was being a dick.)

Lilo, however, didn’t “hear” the sarcasm thanks to Asperger Ears that have a hard time hearing the differences in voice inflections. Thus, she responded to the tween shitwad with, “Thanks Max! I’ve been practicing!” It was the most cheerful, open-hearted and friendly voice in the world. If she held up a sign saying “clueless potential bully-target” she couldn’t have sent a better message to the twatty toerag who had taunted her.

So I went over to the mean kid and pounded him into the ground like railway spike.

Well, that’s what I did in my heart anyway. My body calmly took Stitch to her camp to sign in, and then headed back to Camp Lilo. I reckoned there had been enough time so the bratty shit who mocked Lilo wouldn’t know I was talking to the councilors about him, so I approach the young fellow in charge.

“Young fellow in charge,” I said, “how much do you know about Asperger’s?” I then filled him in on the fact that Lilo was incredibly vulnerable to bullying because she wouldn’t even know for sure she was being picked on by her “friends”. I explained that he and the other councilors had to be extra careful about it. That normal-seeming kid interactions (sarcasm lives in the Tweens, y’all) could be targeting her in subtle ways that she has no defense against because she can’t “see” the arrows that are hitting her.

Part of me also yearned to tell Lilo to reply next time with, “Yeah, well my throw is still better than your face.” I additionally had to remind myself she was too young to tell people to suck her metaphorical dick.

I live in dread of the bullying that Lilo will almost certainly run into if she hangs with Muggles. All kids with Aspy’s get at least some bullying. If it becomes pervasive or severe I will homeschool her, but she is such a gregarious creature that I would like to give her an opportunity to adapt to the herd. I remind myself that 95+% of the kids she has met and played with have been nice to her and flexible about her weirdness. I am aware Muggles can torment their brethren Muggles, too. I hold on to the fact she is happy in camp and excited to go in the morning and has begged to have extended day.

Then I go throw up because I am terrified of her hurting even for a millisecond.

It also doesn’t make me feel better to know some kids are being raised by asshats who blame the Aspy kid for being bullied. For example, a boy was filmed being bullied and “the parents of the kids involved in the video are now standing up for their kids. The father of the teen who uploaded the video, Levi Weatherly, says Null is asking for it. “I would say three-fourths of this stuff he brings on himself and and probably a fourth of it is bullying that shouldn’t be going on,” Weatherly said.Since airing the news story on Monday, the news station has received over 100 comments— not in support of Null and his family—but in support of the bullies. Most of the comments blame Null for his disabilities:

Jamie Harrison wrote: “He called my nephew a nasty name and my nephew Cole cocked (sic) him in the mouth. I`m proud of my nephew for doing that.”

Nate Goof wrote: “This kid has done things to get people mad that I think he could probably control.”

People who spew that shit “provoke” me, but I betcha they’ll complain when I punch their noses thru the back of their skull.

*deep breath*

I’m getting some books that might help down the line: Safety Skills for Asperger Women, A Quest for Social Skills for Students With Autism or Asperger’s (including role-play games), and The Asperkid’s (Secret)  Book of Social Rules.

It is both hard and wonderful to be an Aspy girl.

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Inequality Sucks Ass

America is having some issues,people. A lot of those issues are byproducts of the  the rampant inequality that is making America shit the bed. Inequality, the gap between the haves and the have-not-as-much and the have-a-little and the have-nots, is measured by the “the Gini coefficient, a formula that measures the distribution of income across a population. The closer a Gini number is to 1, the greater the level of inequality; the closer to zero, the closer to perfect equality.”  

The Gini is like golf scores – the lower the better. Sadly, it has steadily trended upward since 1970, with a rapid shift upward after 1981 and another sharp burst in 1993/1994. Behold the data with thine own eyes:

gini coefficiant over time

This chart is not good news. This chart is goat-taint bad, y’all. The more inequality in a country, the worse things get for people. Seriously. You can buy books by Nobel Prize winning economists that explain it. Worse, the higher that graph goes, the smaller our middle-class shrinks. I promise you that a smaller middle class is a bad, bad thing.

So what’s causing this festering stew of pus?

Well, a big part of the problem is that Big Corporations are making the non-rich (that’s probably YOU and I know it is ME) pay taxes for them and then taking that very same tax money in the form of “subsidies”, AKA “corporate welfare”.

“According to Richard Wolff, professor of Economics at the University of Massachusetts, U.S. corporations, particularly the large ones, “have avoided taxes as effectively as they have controlled government expenditures to benefit them.” Wolff points out that during the Depression and WWII, federal income tax receipts from individuals and corporations were fairly equal, but by 1980, individual income taxes were four times higher than corporate taxes. “Since WWII, corporations have shifted much of the federal tax burden for themselves to the public-and especially onto the middle class,” Wolff says.

The most comprehensive recent study of corporate taxes by professors at Duke, MIT and the University of California concluded “we find a significant percent of firms  that appear to be successfully avoiding large portions of the corporate income over a sustained period of time.”  For example, The New York Times reported that GE’s total tax was 14.3% over the last 5 years, while in 2009 receiving a $140 billion bailout guarantee of its debt from the federal government.”

It gets even crappier. The tax burden has also shifted from the Mega-Rich to the middle class and working poor. Under Dwight D(ear God how I love him) Eisenhower, the top tax rate (the thing that would effect billionaires today) was a whopping 91%. He took that money and poured into infrastructure and schools and the public good and America thrived. Yes, we had some serious problems – such as the lack of women’s emancipation and the Jim Crow laws — but as a whole the American middle class was HUGE. Nowadays the Mega-Rich pay less than a third of that and our infrastructure and schools are falling down around our ears.

Let’s look at the richest people in America as an example, the heirs to the Wal-Mart fortune – the Walton Family. They own as much wealth as the bottom 42% of Americans while their workers are paid so little that they need government assistance programs to survive. Whether or not you shop at Wal-Mart, if you pay taxes you are helping them pay their workers salaries. If the Waltons, who are jointly worth $115.7 BILLION, had to pay 91% of their wealth in taxes, like Eisenhower would have made them do, they would still have more than $10 Billion in wealth. I think they could squeak by, the poor wee things.

America is also struggling because “real” wages have decreased. A $10 bill in 1960 is equivalent now to $80.37 in spending power. In 1960, the average yearly wage was $4,743 a year. That means the average Joe made $38,120.36 in salary a year in todays dollars. Today the average salary for a US worker is $26,695. That means the US worker made more than $10,000 more a year in 1960 than they do today.

How about the “high end” jobs, like doctors? They are still holding on, right? Nope. They are even worse off. In 1960, the average doctor made $39,000 a year, or $313,449.32 in today’s money. Nowadays, the average doctor makes $191,520 a year. They make about 2/3 of what they made in 1960.

So who has been getting all the dough? I’ll give you a hint. In 1960 the average CEO made 40 times what a worker made, which would be roughly $189,720, or over $1.5 million dollars a year. Nice, right? Today some of them make more than 331 times a workers salary, and they make an average of $10.5 Million. So yes, the Fat Cats are feasting on the bones of us mice.

Combined with the massive loss of manufacturing jobs and the loss of union jobs (which effect the average wage), unless something drastic changes,you are hearing the bells toll for the American middle class, and thus for the USA. The USA as we know is being destroyed by the greedy, Mammon-worshiping anus-juice of the Oligarchy, the traitorous bastards.

Yes, I’m bitter about it.

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Emotionally Exhausted

Y’all, I am at the end of my rope. I have tied a not in it and am hanging on, but my arms are really getting tired.

First, my mom’s selective amnesia is killing me. She forgets/rewrites past events when she did something wrong. I haven’t forgotten. She then brings up the events and if confused as to why I am upset when she didn’t *do* anything. She eventually starts whinging that maybe I am inventing stuff or misremembering to make her look bad.

That drives a normal person nuts; imagine what it does to an Aspy.

Fortunately I‘ve learned to keep cooperating evidence. She then asks me why I “keep bringing stuff up” about a topic she called me to talk about.

This gets old, y’all. I kept my temper, but it is really REALLY hard to do and leaves me depleted like I ran a marathon.

Added to that, Gamer (Gozer’s brother) has told Taintface and BabyBro that I told him his mother didn’t miss him. Do I even have to state it here that this is a lie?  Mom keeps asking me if maybe he “overheard something”. Nope. I was careful. Very careful. Why? Because I would never hurt that child by telling him or letting him overhear the idea that his mom didn’t miss him.

So why is Gamer lying? Because in abusive and/or insecure households kids learn to lie more and better in order to survive.

“Ultimately, even young children learn survival skills. In situations where they are being severely punished, children learn ways to avoid that punishment. They learn how to lie and how to do it effectively. As children get older, those lies get bitter.”

Taintface, with her emotional rages, is scary. She doesn’t hit the kids, but she screams. She makes “rage-face”. They are afraid of her temper. The smarter the kid, the better the survivor/liar. Gamer is smart; Game lies like a rug. He is doing the best he can and his lies break my heart rather than anger me.

Why this particular lie, though?

Gamer, in particular, tries to please Taintface as much as he tries to escape punishment. If (and I think we can take it as a given) Taintface is stupid/insensitive/selfish enough to talk about our … dispute … in front of the kids, Gamer is going to learn that telling her bad things about me is going to get him attention, love, and please the twisted twatwaffle who birthed him.

The lies are going to get worse, I’m sure.

Taintface and Babybro also gave him an “old” iphone when one of them upgraded to a newer model. (How nice to have so much disposable income thanks to my parents covering bills, no?) Gamer, being smart, blew through the parental blacks and found porn. His biological dad, who is smart enough to check the browser history, found it out and took away the phone. There is, understandably, concern about a 9 year old watching hardcore porn.

He tried, briefly, to blame it on Lilo. That didn’t work because 1) he didn’t have his iphone here and 2) Granny called him on it and he burst into repentant tears.

He wants to be moral. He says he doesn’t “know why” he lies.

I know why you lie, Gamer. I do. I love you and forgive you, sweetie.

Your mother, however, can suck my metaphorical dick for the rest of her life.

I’m tired. So, so tired.

Update: Sweet Babou just pointed out that the lies against us could become dangerously large. Pardon me while I regrow an ulcer.

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Here comes the bus

I love my mom. I really do. Nevertheless, the woman has a terrible habit of throwing me under the bus. She does this for two reasons: I) she has been trained by patriarchy that women are less important and her kneejerk reaction if my brothers or her siblings are upset is to try to get me to see how and why it is my fault and I should make nice with the poor dear creatures and 2) having had an abusive childhood she cannot handle conflict. She values peace at any price and invariably that price has been not only her well-being/happiness/integrity/trust but mine as well. It is hard for her to fathom why I don’t also gladly pay the price to restore “harmony” to the “family”.

I keep telling her it’s her fault I won’t take any crap. She gave me too many hugs as a child and too much self-esteem for me to bow to patriarchal horseshit at this late date.

Yes, my relationship with my mother is complex but loving. How could you tell?

Anyway, remember how a few weeks ago my batcrap crazy SIL Taintface called me ranting in a psychotic break with reality? Well, my mom is trying to make peace by hinting I should say I am sorry for “implying” they were bad parents.

Um, no.

For one thing, I “implied” nothing;  I flat out stated that picking a vacation over your child’s Asperger’s testing was a dick move. It was the truth and I stand by it. For another thing, Taintface  and BabyBro wouldn’t have gotten their precious feelings hurt if Taintface hadn’t attacked me. They metaphorically dropped bombs on my Pearl Harbor, and now mom wants me to say I’m so sorry that I detonated an atomic bomb in their psyche.

Not going to happen.

I am never sorry for defending myself from unjust attacks. I am never sorry for winning the “war”. I won’t use weapons “preemptively” and I won’t fire after a peace treaty, but if attacked I will by Gum be the one still standing. I am just made that way.

My mom isn’t made that way. Therefore, I want to protect her even as she is gearing up to throw me under the bus.

It’s complicated.

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ASD = $$$$$

Holy crap Batman! Did you see how much it can cost to raise a kid with an Autism Spectrum Disorder?? As much as $2 Million, that’s how much.

Considering the fiscal toll (you cannot put a price tag on the emotional/stress toll) on parents and the government, you would think the USA would be a little bit concerned about skyrocketing ASD rates, no?


Turns out the ASD is mostly caused by a combo of genes and environment. The environmental issues that can cause ASD are pollution and pesticides. Oh yeah, global warming is going to make that shit worse. How many of us here think that Big Oil, Big Coal, and Monsanto/Big Ag are going let the US government, which they have bought fair and square, do anything about any of it? Laws for better gas mileage? Subsides for organic farming? Stricter carbon emission laws? Obama tried that and the Supreme Court said the EPA can’t make businesses follow its mean ol’ rules

Har. It is to laugh. Bitterly.

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James Madison University Coddles Rapists

Today, in things that should make you vomit with outrage, James Madison University saw a VIDEO of a sexual assault wherein the women is clearly not giving consent but decided to not to expel the rapists until AFTER they graduated and got their degrees. In essence, they will receive no punishment whatsoever. The woman who was assaulted has dropped out of school from stress & depression, but James Madison University can’t bother to give a shit about THAT.

The rapists, whose names are Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion (which I will be repeating repeatedly so any perspective employers find these asshats), are on video sexually assaulting Sarah Butters:

“The video shows Butters topless and being groped, while the men laugh and pull her onto their laps, trying to remove the bottom of her bathing suit. It includes audio of Butters saying, “This isn’t okay, this isn’t a good idea.”

That couldn’t be spun into “consent” even by James Madison University, who found Sigma Chi fraternities brothers Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion “responsible for sexual assault and harassment in the spring break 2013 attack on Sarah Butters, and determined that they shared the video widely with others on the JMU campus in Harrisonburg, Virginia. The unusual “expulsion after graduation” sanction allowed two of the men to graduate on time in May. The third plans to remain on campus for his senior year in 2014-15. Butters’ complaint to federal officials about the school’s handling of the attack has prompted an investigation by the U.S. Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights.”

Boys will be boys, I guess … and Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion were only indulging in a little sexual assault so why be harsh? It’s not like Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion did something really bad, like smoke pot. Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion only sexually assaulted a woman. I’m sure that Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion, like the rest of the patriarchy, didn’t think a woman was a full human being with bodily autonomy. I’m sure Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion though she gave “consent” when she trusted them as her friends and drank alcohol. Poor Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion – having to endure the stigma of being expelled from school after they graduate so that no one will know.

Perhaps Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion should contact George Will to whine about how Sarah Butters only turned them in to gain that coveted sexual assault survivor status? George has been making the rounds lately defending his attack on rape survivors, and I am sure he would love the support of such fine upstanding young men as Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion:

“According to Will, colleges are lowering the standard of proof for sexual assault allegations, and he’s worried that ruin the lives of young men. “What’s going to result is a lot of young men and young women in this sea of hormones and alcohol that gets into so much trouble on campus, and you’re going to have charges of sexual assault. And you’re going to have young men disciplined, their lives often — they won’t get into medical school, they won’t get into law school, and all of this,” Will said in the interview.”

Well, we wouldn’t want to prevent rapists from having positions of power in society, now do we? I’m sure the world would be a better place if men like Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion become doctors and lawyers or anything else that would put vulnerable women in their path.

Meanwhile, as George Will defends the likes of Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion, their victim “has decided to withdraw from the university. Her grades had slipped during the adjudication process, causing her to lose financial aid.” To George Will, that must not count as having your life permanently and seriously blighted as a result of sexual assault. Only men, men like Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion, have lives where the potential to go to med school counts. As a woman, Sarah Butters shouldn’t even be thinking about post-grad degrees anyway, I reckon good ol’ George Will would say.

George Will, enjoy the support of people like Mike Lunney, Jay Dertzbaugh and Nick Scallion. They are your brethren. They are your “kind”.

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