Last April, Paula Muran tweeted the bellow comment to a rape victim:
Clearly, she is mocking the victim, implying the victim should not “announce” she was raped (as though she should be ashamed of being raped), and de facto telling the victim to “get over it”. These are all hallmarks of victim blaming and the slut shaming of rape victims. Enraged, I posted about it on my own blog and on BlogHer. Her lawyers, according to WordPress, contacted WordPress to get the post removed and WordPress said “Nope. Fair play.” [I originally posted it was BlogHer; my error!!]
Panayiota Bertzikis was justifiably unhappy with Paula Muran and sent the Sedona Yoga Festival my post so that they would know Paula Muran was a rape-shamer.
This cause Paula Muran (I gather) to lose her invite to the festival and cost her money in some way. She was distraught, and cried out on Twitter:
I explained that no, I didn’t hate her. It is simply that I loathe slut/rape shaming. She replied:
Okay, if she was willing to admit she had done wrong and apologize for it she should be given the opportunity for redemption. I am not a vindictive monster; I am a righteous bitch. Different operating system entirely. Thus, this tweet dialog happened:
WTF? How could she not know whom she had victimized. She had visited the blog and left a comment (soon to be approved) so I KNOW she could have gotten the info. However, I gave her the benefit of the doubt since she was stressed:
Are you fokking kidding me? She is now doubling down and acting like she didn’t do anything wrong? She dared to speak for Panayiota Bertzikis and tell me that Panayiota Bertzikis wasn’t offended by the rape shaming??
Oh, but Paula Muran was not yet done putting her foot in her mouth (yoga increases flexibility). She then began to accuse me of being a liar and of slandering her:
First, the screen capture of HER OWN WORDS gives ample proof of my veracity. Secondly, if I had lied that isn’t slander; it is libel. Educate yourself Paula Muran.
I, naturally, point out the fact that I have evidence. I am not the only one who saw this flaw in her logic, or the fact that she was publicly calling me a liar and was thus committing actual defamation.
Paula Muran ignored this, and instead focused on attacking Panayiota Bertzikis. Paula Muran insisted she had never shamed anyone and claimed that Panayiota Bertzikis had said she was “proud” of being raped. I felt compelled to point out that “proud to have survived” is very, VERY different from being proud of being raped.
At this point, I felt that screen capture was the bestest friend I could ever have. Moreover, it will be a cold day in hell before I let some twatwaffle issue a “fauxpology” and platitudes on my blog. She just wants to get “out of trouble”. She CLEARLY cannot see that what she did was wrong and hurtful to both the individual rape victim and all survivors.
I suggest that if Paula Muran not want to be accused of tossing cosmic salad, that she stop tongue-wagging like an asshole.