Paula Muran Is Her Own Worse Enemy

I am starting to think Paula Muran is more than a mere asshat. I am starting to believe Paula Muran may be a full-blow nutcase as well.  Paula Muran has been sending threatening emails to people claiming she will sue them because – get this – they re-tweeted unfavorable comments about her!

Yeah, we all know how strong those anti-re-tweet laws are.

I was further mystified why Paula Muran was hassling complete strangers about my blog whilst avoiding communication with the one person who has control over the content of my blog, namely ME. Finally, she contacted me. Not via email as I supposed she would. Nope. She commented publically on my blog, to wit:

“You published false statements about me. Because of your allegations published in April 2014 and again September 21-22, 23rd, 2014 I have been severely defamed by your words and actions and suffered severe financial damages including my reputation damaged.

Pursuant to Arizona law §12-653.02 I demand you retract any and all statements about me and publish an apology to Sedona Yoga Festival for falsely accusing me of supporting rapists, domestic violence, bully and mocking women and woman hatter. I’m fully prepared to pursue legal action against you and your followers if all statements about Paula Muran aren’t retracted by October 3, 2014.”

First, and I want to make this perfectly clear, I have never accused her of being a woman hatter. I have never suggested that she was a milliner of any kind. I have not even suggested she has done haberdashery. I called her an asshat, which is another way of saying her metaphorical head was up her metaphorical ass. There were no actual hats involved.

Secondly, there are not enough words in the English language to describe the level of non-applicable that Arizona law §12-653.02 is to this particular situation. I am beginning to think she isn’t up to date on her defamation laws, y’all.

Finally, Paula Muran needs to grasp that her reputation was not damaged by my opinions of her comment to a rape victim. No sirree Bob. Her reputation was damaged because of the horrible rape shaming comment she made to a rape victim. People looked at this tweet:

Paula Muran is an asshat

and were disgusted by her comment. After shuddering in revulsion, they decided of their own free will that rape shaming and enlightenment were not compatible and perhaps Paula Muran was a horrible charlatan. They didn’t need my opinion to convince them. Her words and her words alone were enough to ‘damage her reputation’.

Paula Muran also eradicated any hope she had of convincing people that she had just badly phrased a sincere attempt to help Panayiota Bertzikis when she insisted that Panayiots Bertzikis was “proud” of being raped.

Paula Muran claims pride

Even if she could find a lawyer who would take her case, she would not win because I have made no false statements. Moreover, I would countersue and make her responsible for my legal fees. There would also be the delightful Streisand Effect wherein “an attempt to hide, remove, or censor a piece of information has the unintended consequence of publicizing the information more widely, usually facilitated by the Internet”.

In fact, if she had either 1) apologized for the initial tweet in a public forum or 2) at least had the sense not to engage in a debate about it then she wouldn’t have helped these posts spread so far and wide.

Paula Muran needs to learn that she is her own worst enemy.

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Should I Sue Paula Muran for Defamation?

Some of my Twitter followers & friends have brought it to my attention that Paula Muran is tweeting about defamation lawsuits.


I am assuming the oh-so-subtle hints are aimed in my direction. If so, Paula Muran needs to know that to claim defamation of any kind certain conditions must be met. To wit:

“to prove it you usually have to show there’s been a statement that is all of the following:

  • published
  • false
  • injurious
  • unprivileged

Let’s look at each of these elements in detail.

1. First, the “statement” can be spoken, written, pictured, or even gestured. Because written statements last longer than spoken statements, most courts, juries, and insurance companies consider libel more harmful than slander.

2. “Published” means that a third party heard or saw the statement — that is, someone other than the person who made the statement or the person the statement was about. “Published” doesn’t necessarily mean that the statement was printed in a book — it just needs to have been made public through television, radio, speeches, gossip, or even loud conversation. Of course, it could also have been written in magazines, books, newspapers, leaflets, or on picket signs.

3. A defamatory statement must be false — otherwise it’s not considered damaging. Even terribly mean or disparaging things are not defamatory if the shoe fits. Most opinions don’t count as defamation because they can’t be proved to be objectively false. For instance, when a reviewer says, “That was the worst book I’ve read all year,” she’s not defaming the author, because the statement can’t be proven to be false.

4. The statement must be “injurious.” Since the whole point of defamation law is to take care of injuries to reputation, those suing for defamation must show how their reputations were hurt by the false statement — for example, the person lost work; was shunned by neighbors, friends, or family members; or was harassed by the press. Someone who already had a terrible reputation most likely won’t collect much in a defamation suit.

5. Finally, to qualify as a defamatory statement, the offending statement must be “unprivileged.” Under some circumstances, you cannot sue someone for defamation even if they make a statement that can be proved false. For example, witnesses who testify falsely in court or at a deposition can’t be sued. (Although witnesses who testify to something they know is false could theoretically be prosecuted for perjury.) Lawmakers have decided that in these and other situations, which are considered “privileged,” free speech is so important that the speakers should not be constrained by worries that they will be sued for defamation. Lawmakers themsleves also enjoy this privilege: They aren’t liable for statements made in the legislative chamber or in official materials, even if they say or write things that would otherwise be defamatory.”

Oh, and suing me for my opinion of her actions is not going to fly very well either.

However, Paula Muran has written in a public forum that I have lied about her and slandered her. It is demonstrably provable that 1) I didn’t lie and 2) because I didn’t lie it was not slander/libel. Thus, Paula Muran has made false and spurious allegations, resulting in the possible defamation of my character. I am talking to a lawyer. I’ll keep you posted.

PS – it is still my opinion that Paula Muran is a disgusting rape shamer and twatwaffle.

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Bill Frezza Calls All Frat Brothers Rapists-in-Waiting

Since I have been on the subject of nasty-ass twatwaffles who love to blame the victim, I though I’d say my piece about Bill Frezza’s now-deleted Forbes article entitled “Drunk Female Guests Are the Gravest Threat to Fraternities“.

He explains himself:

“Before feminist web vigilantes call for my defenestration, I single out female guests for one simple reason. Fraternity alumni boards, working with chapter officers, employ a variety of policies designed to guide and police member behavior. Our own risk management manual exceeds 22 pages. The number of rules and procedures that have to be followed to run a party nowadays would astound anyone over 40. We take the rules very seriously, so much so that brothers who flout these policies can, and will, be asked to move out. But we have very little control over women who walk in the door carrying enough pre-gaming booze in their bellies to render them unconscious before the night is through.”

You see, in Bill Frezza’s world if a woman is too drunk to defend herself then she has implied that she consents to sex with any random frat boy who finds her incapacitated or unconscious. It is totes unfair for her to claim “rape” if SHE was the one who got drunk while in possession of a vagina. Bill Frezza seems to think that frat boys simply cannot help themselves when they see drunk young women and have no choice but to stick a penis into her undefended body. The she gets all snippy and acts like it was some big deal. She acts like SHE was the victim when she is the one who set out the honey-trap by having an unguarded pussy!

Plus, Frezza knows them bitches be lying. He warns young men that “false accusation of rape months after the fact triggered by regrets over a drunken hook-up, or anger over a failed relationship” could ruin the fraternity.” You know, because consensual “drunken hook-up” and non-consensual “rape” are the exact same things! Why? Because alcohol!

Bill Frezza then advises frat bros not to let drunken women into the house, lest some member accidentally rape her because he naturally assumed he had the right to fuck her body without her consent.


I had no idea it was so hard for men not to rape! I have always assumed it was easy not to rape, because none of the men in my life rape people. I know firsthand of incidents where men I know personally were around a drunk-off-her-ass woman and managed to not stick their penis in her! They didn’t even accidently fall into her lady parts! Yet Bill Frezza insists that seeing a drunk woman spontaneously generates rapists!

Clearly it is not the feminists who think all men are wanna-be-rapists; It’s manly men like Bill Frezza.

Bill Frezza is a big ol’ asshat.

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Keep Digging, Paula Muran

You would think she would give up and just apologize to Panayiotab for trying to rape-shame her, wouldn’t you? Nope. Not Paula Muran. Instead she went on the “my words did not mean what you think they mean” defense.


Notice the masterful fauxpology? The “I didn’t say nuthin’ & IF you were too sensitive well then I’m sorry” approach to non-apology? Apparently the snide tweet she sent to a rape survivor was only sneering in our dirty little minds that could not comprehend her true meaning.


The fact that Paula Muran managed to turn the fact that a rape survivor was “not ashamed to have been raped” into “being proud of being raped” indicates Paula Muran is something of an expert of twisted interpretation, no?

Anyway, I called bullshit.


Her response?


Seriously? The problem is ours because we think people are out to get us? We need to smile more and see the fun in life? Because …. seeing and acting against rape shaming isn’t perky or something?? The have a nice week, the smiley face; my mind boggles. How is this an appropriate end to such a serious topic?

I … I can’t even.

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Paula Muran, a picture is worth 1000 words

Last April, Paula Muran tweeted the bellow comment to a rape victim:

Paula Muran is an asshat

Clearly, she is mocking the victim, implying the victim should not “announce” she was raped (as though she should be ashamed of being raped), and de facto telling the victim to “get over it”. These are all hallmarks of victim blaming and the slut shaming of rape victims. Enraged, I posted about it on my own blog and on BlogHer. Her lawyers, according to WordPress, contacted WordPress to get the post removed and WordPress said “Nope. Fair play.” [I originally posted it was BlogHer; my error!!]

Panayiota Bertzikis was justifiably unhappy with Paula Muran and sent the Sedona Yoga Festival my post so that they would know Paula Muran was a rape-shamer.


This cause Paula Muran (I gather) to lose her invite to the festival and cost her money in some way. She was distraught, and cried out on Twitter:


I explained that no, I didn’t hate her. It is simply that I loathe slut/rape shaming. She replied:


Okay, if she was willing to admit she had done wrong and apologize for it she should be given the opportunity for redemption. I am not a vindictive monster; I am a righteous bitch. Different operating system entirely. Thus, this tweet dialog happened:


WTF? How could she not know whom she had victimized. She had visited the blog and left a comment (soon to be approved) so I KNOW she could have gotten the info. However, I gave her the benefit of the doubt since she was stressed:


Are you fokking kidding me? She is now doubling down and acting like she didn’t do anything wrong? She dared to speak for Panayiota Bertzikis and tell me that Panayiota Bertzikis wasn’t offended by the rape shaming??

Oh, but Paula Muran was not yet done putting her foot in her mouth (yoga increases flexibility). She then began to accuse me of being a liar and of slandering her:


First, the screen capture of HER OWN WORDS gives ample proof of my veracity. Secondly, if I had lied that isn’t slander; it is libel. Educate yourself Paula Muran.

I, naturally, point out the fact that I have evidence. I am not the only one who saw this flaw in her logic, or the fact that she was publicly calling me a liar and was thus committing actual defamation.


Paula Muran ignored this, and instead focused on attacking Panayiota Bertzikis. Paula Muran insisted she had never shamed anyone and claimed that Panayiota Bertzikis had said she was “proud” of being raped. I felt compelled to point out that “proud to have survived” is very, VERY different from being proud of being raped.


At this point, I felt that screen capture was the bestest friend I could ever have. Moreover, it will be a cold day in hell before I let some twatwaffle issue a “fauxpology” and platitudes on my blog. She just wants to get “out of trouble”. She CLEARLY cannot see that what she did was wrong and hurtful to both the individual rape victim and all survivors.

I suggest that if Paula Muran not want to be accused of tossing cosmic salad, that she stop tongue-wagging like an asshole.

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The Flop Has Flipped

Many of you have been following, with concern, my battle to help my autistic niece Gozer and deal with her mother Taintface. Well, I have good news and good news that infuriates only me but with help Gozer so I am dealing.

First, now BabyBro and his wife Taintface are admitting Gozer has autism, which is quite the improvement. This is, of course, a vast improvement over the bullshit they had been spewing.  Secondly, Taintface and BabyBro are rewriting history so that the worry the Gozer was on the autism spectrum has been Taintface’s fear all along.

Ah, but how am I left to be the villain of the piece then? Simple. The fight over Gozer and Taintface’s original attack on me has been erased and now the entire “fight” has been over the fact that I implied (without provocation and just because I am a big ol’ meanie) that BabyBro and Taintface are piss-poor parents.

My word. Not since people in Louisiana started blaming the response to Hurricane Katrina on President Obama have I been so painfully amused by willful ignorance and historical alteration.

What has caused the popping sound of their heads coming out of their assholes and this desperate revisionism, you ask? The fact that Gozer has to be kept at a separate desk and is constantly in trouble for throwing things and disruptive behavior in school has made it obvious the fact SOMETHING is up cannot be hidden. Thus, Taintface and BabyBro are willing to admit Gozer is on the spectrum, lest people think her actions are the result of their piss-poor parenting.

The current report and evaluation on Gozer simply will not do, however. Apparently Taintface and BabyBro are very concerned that it makes them look bad. They have plans to have Gozer re-evaluated by another specialist, whom they can lie to about things – like how Taintface’s continued smoking during pregnancy, Gozer’s induced delivery, and their frequent extended absences from her life, as examples — and therefore get the diagnosis but not look quite so shitty in the report.

I just keep taking deep[ breaths and reminding myself that as long as Gozer is getting the help she needs in school then everything else is immaterial.

However, here on my own blog surrounded by Fokkerites, can I admit to secret eye-popping rage, tho?

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The Star-Strangled Banner

America was once the envy of the world. Now, it’s citizens have got socioeconomic inequalities comparable to places like Chile and South Africa.


Because the ultra-rich and corporations don’t pay their fair share of taxes anymore. Moreover, it all started with the bullshit selfishness of  John Birch numbnuts and the Baby Boom Yuppies of the 80s who got theirs and didn’t give a half-eaten rat’s ass if anyone else got some too.  Now, we are in the same shithole of haves v/s have-nots as China:

“The turning point for both [China and the USA], launching them into ever rising inequality, took place at almost the same time: late 1970s and early 1980s. With the election of Ronald Reagan to the U.S. presidency and the policies of high real interest rates and lower taxes on “unearned” (capital) income, income inequality in the United States jumped and then kept on rising throughout the 1980s and the 1990s, before eventually plateauing at a very high level in the naughts. The overall outcome was that, measured by the Gini coefficient, U.S. inequality went from around 35 to 45 Gini points—that is, from a mid-range OECD inequality level to an OECD outlier surpassed only by Mexico and Turkey.

I would like to thank Regan Republicans & Reganomics and the Gutless Mewling Democrats who went along with the bullshit for the destruction of my country in my lifetime. Thanks guys. We took a hard right … off a cliff.

Under Eisenhower and even Nixon rich paid their taxes and the nation thrived, but under the new breed of Republicans and the Democrats Who Are Just Like Them the nation has been on a steady downhill slide. Thanks to the The Right Wingers and the Spineless “Left” [i.e. moderate right wingers] our once great schools and cities have bitten the big one.

“America has the most billionaires in the world, but not a single U.S. city ranks among the world’s most livable cities. Not a single U.S. airport is among the top 100 airports in the world. Our bridges, road and rail are falling apart, and our middle class is being guttered out thanks to three decades of stagnant wages, while the top 1 percent enjoys 95 percent of all economic gains. A rigged tax code and a bloated military budget are starving the federal and state governments of the revenue it needs to invest in infrastructure, which means today America looks increasingly like a second rate nation, and now new data shows America’s intellectual resources are also in decline …  For the past three decades, the Republican Party has waged a dangerous assault on the very idea of public education. Tax cuts for the rich have been balanced with spending cuts to education. During the New Deal era of the 1940s to 1970s, public schools were the great leveler of America. They were our great achievement. It was universal education for all, but today it’s education for those fortunate enough to be born into wealthy families or live in wealthy school districts. The right’s strategy of defunding public education leaves parents with the option of sending their kids to a for-profit school or a theological school that teaches kids our ancestors kept dinosaurs as pets. “What kind of future society the defectors from the public school rolls envision I cannot say. However, having spent some time in the Democratic Republic of Congo—a war-torn hellhole with one of those much coveted limited central governments, and, not coincidentally, a country in which fewer than half the school-age population goes to public school—I can say with certainty that I don’t want to live there,” writes Chuck Thompson in Better off Without Em.”

Jesus wept and Mammon laughed.

I am bitter about the fact my country was destroyed from within by the greedy. I am even more bitter that millions will continue to vote for Republican Thugs (instead of Mealy-Mouthed Moderates like I am forced to do) because they would rather out country crumble than see it become a land where gays can marry one another and women get equal pay.

*stomps away snarling*

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