Baby & Blues

Last Friday my BabyBro and his wife Taintface the Awful had a baby girl. On one hand, I welcome a niece. On the other hand, the poor little girl will be mothered by Taintface, so that’s sad.

It’s also hard for my mother to just rejoice in her new grandchild because all the family cannot be there. Sweet Babou and I are still banned from seeing Gozer & Gamer & (I’ve no nickname for the baby yet), although the reason why has now … evolved. Now, Gozer sometimes  has Autism (depending on the day and Taintface’s mood) but I am forbidden to see Gozer because I “lied” to the therapist and almost “got them kids taken away from us”.

The reality is, of course, that there was nothing I reported that was clearly abuse and everything I said was confidential to a therapist for Gozer’s diagnosis. I am unsure how I almost “got them kids taken away from” Taintface and BabyBro, but according to my mom Taintface now maintains she had to “call that Lady (the therapist) and beg her for an hour not to report us and talk her out of taking our kids”. Except that  1) Taintface didn’t call and 2) the therapist doesn’t work for the state social services and 3) no one contacted the state social services. In sum, a private report that went straight to them and that they never had to show a single soul almost “got them kids  taken away”.

Huh.

Taintface has figured out that no one is buying her story that I “got” Gozer diagnosed with autism because I am jealous of her healthy children and want them to be like my Aspy mongrels. She’s had to change the narrative in such a way that she can pretend to justify her bad behavior. If I tried to “get her kids taken away” then I am clearly Evil and Of the Devil so her behavior is not only excused, it is justified.

She seems to have convinced herself that I am also lying about how much my parents babysat Gamer and Gozer. My mom getting up at 3:00 AM to make it to their house by 5:00 AM and my parents having to spend money on a hotel room because Taintface didn’t even offer them a bed when they pulled 24 babysitting shifts has slipped her mind. Mom and Dad, however, remember that shit clearly.

I have got to wonder how much of her own lies Taintface believes at this point? Because my brother has developed this sort of hellish amnesia wherein her version of reality is the one he is determined to remember. Our mom wants to know when her youngest son became and asshole. The answer is sadly simple;  it happened when he married that knuckle-dragging shit-kicker and was poisoned by her nasty hyena twat.

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Well, this is triggering

Reports that Josh Duggar molested underage girls (including some of his sisters) are all over the interwebs today, which is triggering the hell out of me. All I want to say is that the gleeful schadenfreude about his downfall is gross and insensitive to the victims, but I understand the impulse. As Tim Molly said, “I’m trying not to delight in his downfall. But God, he’s made it hard not to.“ The only thing more disgusting than my internal savage satisfaction in seeing hypocrisy exposed and ridiculed are the vile apologist excuses for Josh Duggar’s sexual assaults. Wannabe POTUS Mike Huckabee said that, “good people make mistakes and do regrettable and even disgusting things,” and accused those who revealed the allegations of “insensitive bloodthirst,” and said Josh Duggar had redeemed himself in living a “responsible and circumspect life as an adult.”

I don’t want to think about or talk about the Duggars, but I cannot help but point out that Michelle Duggar did a robocall in Arkansas last year (well after she knew her son was a child molester) warning voters that transgendered people were a danger to children.

What kills me is the fact that statistically many of the people calling Josh Duggar names and raving about what filth child molesters are, have covered it up or excused it when it happened in THEIR family. As long as we live in this patriarchal society where “boys will be boys” apologists act like it is somehow “natural” for predators to target children, this crime will get covered up as if it were no big deal within families. 

At least the Duggar patriarch reported his son to the cops. Most people don’t bother

I hate this shit.

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An Open Letter To Grimm

I watch very few TV shows. One of the few is Grimm. Yes, it has some uneven plotting but I don’t care; I dig it like a backhoe. Even when I roll my eyes at some of the stupid decisions made by characters to force a story-arc, I keep watching because I love the relationship between Rosalee and Monroe. I love that Sargent Wu is a short, Filipino badass. I love that Hank is the practical one and holds his own despite being without any supernatural skills. I love Truble despite the wretched moniker the writers came up with. I love how the show can mock itself in a meta delight. I even love the outrageousness of the paranormal on it. I love the way every actor on that show can take the silliest dialogue and make it wonderful. There’s lots to love about the show, even before Captain Renard takes off his shirt. 

*There are some SERIOUS spoilers ahead, so stop reading and flee if you haven’t seen the last season in its entirety.*

I love the show so much that I forgave its plot line of Nick’s rape. Nick and friends stole Adeline’s baby girl. She was a bad guy, and they didn’t think she was worthy of being in the loop on THEIR decision about how to keep her baby safe. This pissed Adeline off something fierce. As a mom, I can relate. Adeline bargained with the royal family that if she could neutralize Nick’s powers as a Grimm, then they’d help her get her baby back. Thus, she did a spell disguising herself as Nick’s girlfriend and slept with him to quash his powers. That is rape. He would not have consented to sex with Adeline. A lack of consent is rape.

Its not being treated as seriously as it should be. No one has used the word “rape”. They tend to use the words “tricked into sleeping with her”.

Part of it is contextual. By presenting Nick’s rape as the desperate act of a mother determined to get her child back, the rape is (for lack of a better word for it) sympathetic. If Adeline had committed murder to get her kid back, I wouldn’t have blinked. The “good guys” kill the “bad guys”all the time on TV with much less justification than a kidnapped infant. Nick kidnapped her baby and she was willing to commit rape to get the baby back. The rape is, like all rapes, unjustifiable; but unlike other rapes the rapist wasn’t the only bad guy in the room when it occurred.

The other reason it isn’t taken as seriously as it should be is that Nick is a guy, and when a woman rapes a man our culture doesn’t think of it as the same level of heinousness as when a man rapes a woman. People like Bill Mayer make jokes about what a “lucky bastard” the male rape victim is.  This minimization of Nick’s violation is intensified by the fact Adeline LOOKED like Nick’s girlfriend Juliette, so the sex appeared consensual. It didn’t look like we’ve been programmed to think rape looks like, so it is harder to see it for what it is – a rape.

Now, Juliette is dead and Adeline is pregnant with Nick’s son as a result of the rape. So Nick, despite his understandable bitterness, is determined to keep Adeline from getting killed while pregnant. He’s also determined to care for the child. Okay, he won’t be the first rape victim to love a child despite the horror of the conception. His guilt over kidnapping her daughter and his desire to parent the new baby has also created a kind of uneasy truce between Nick and his rapist. The human psyche is weird so I won’t even quibble with that, as much as I abhor that it bolsters the bullshit trope that rape is something you can just ‘deal with’.  However, there is a hint that the writers plan to have Nick and Adeline develop as a couple.

No.

Do not go there writers and producers. Do not. Victims do NOT “fall in love with” their rapists. Victims may get Stockholm syndrome and there is the delayed reaction to date rape wherein a woman (usually) tells herself that it wasn’t a “real” rape because her assailant is her boyfriend/husband, but people do NOT fall in love with the person who raped them. If you create a storyline that has Nick developing tender feelings toward the woman who raped him, I’m out. I’ll also scream about this atrocity on social media until I am blue in the face. That kind of plot would be and insult and disservice to every single rape survivor in the world, as well as a dick move.

Allow Nick’s guilt over the kidnapping of Adeline’s baby to motivate him to be civil to her, instead of beating her to death with a tire iron for the crime of raping him, but do NOT insult the intelligence and decency of your viewers by making his rapist his “love interest”.

The feelings of male victims of sexual assault should not be trivialized in that manner.

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Pimp My Read (Again)

This post is entirely self-serving, and by self-serving I mean I am trying to entice people to spread the word about my books so that more of those said books will be purchased and I can then use the proceeds to purchase frivolous things like food. I am greedy like that.

There are days when I wonder why in the hell I write. Do I just like the sensation of hard-working poverty wages? I’m a Liberal, we are all about the underclass.

Not that you have to buy my products just because I am pitiful and sobbing. Chuck Windig, an author whose writings and wits I admire, says it best when he points out that no one is obligated to buy your book so stop your whining. He’s absolutely right.

Nevertheless, I have no advertising budget and thanks to my Asperger’s I have piss-poor “executive functioning” so my ability to self-market is nil. Thus, I am clutching your ankles desperately and pleading you to share this post in the hopes that someone, somewhere, will be inspired to invest a handful of change into my art.

For one thing, you can subscribe to my blog for $.99 a month. That is less than the cost of a candy bar, people. If you don’t subscribe you are tacitly telling my blog isn’t worth ~ $.04 a read. Why? Why would you do something so cruel? Don’t you love me anymore? Don’t I give you enough relevant information about insect dongs? *flings herself on the bed weeping*

You can also buy my book Feminism, Fat, and Fokking for a mere $2.99. It is a compilation of the extended dance mix of my most popular blog posts on the topics of feminism, fat, and fokking. Since these posts have been heavily rewritten it is not something you can just read on my blog anymore. It is MORE Fokker. Of course you want more Fokker!

Then there are the publications under my nom de plume of Sylvia Ketrie.

Tempted by Infamy — It’s the first century in Trajan’s Rome, and reputations rise and fall like Empires. Octavia, a Patrician widow, must find a man to satisfy her body’s needs or suffer the rages of hysteria, but no one has inspired her since her beloved husband passed away leaving both her bed and her heart empty.  Torr, a once-enslaved Gladiator, needs a patron to advance his hopes of becoming a citizen of Rome, and an appreciative woman of standing could just be his ticket to true freedom.  So, Octavia believes she’s using Torr, and Torr believes he’s using her, but in reality, they’re both being used–by Cupid.

Courted –Two marriages, and two divorces have left Anthea older and wiser. Finally free again, she knows what–and who–she wants. Lucillus, her lawyer, is a master in the courtroom, but is he as talented in the bedroom? Courted is a tale of desire as ancient and powerful as the Roman Empire in which it is set.

Cupid’s Arrows — The great philosophers claimed that, for a woman, fulfilling ones place in society was its own reward. Cassia disagreed. Her whole life she’d been everything she was supposed to be–a biddable daughter, a responsible member of society, a loyal wife–but her life was anything but fulfilling. Now, faced with the insult of divorce on top of years of restraint and deprivation, she decided–maybe it was time to be bad. For a year she’d denied her desire for her soon-to-be-ex-husband’s handsome archer, Thracius, and she’d be damned if she was going to be sent back to her father’s house in disgrace without at least experiencing a moment of excitement in his arms–even if it meant suffering through archery lessons just to be near him. There’s more pleasure in being targeted by the God of Love than in learning to shoot paper targets, though, and the heat in her archer’s eyes made it clear that she wasn’t the only casualty in this particular war.

See? Lots to chose from. Lots of CHEAP things to choose from. Lots of things you really, really want to buy. Your heart cries out to own at least one of these magnificent opuses! 

Unless you don’t really like my writing.

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The Fear of a 15 year old Autistic Girl

I call shenanigans. An autistic teen and her family were thrown off United Flight 1535 in an emergency stop because the girl was ‘disruptive’.

“She started getting a little upset and I started thinking, ‘You know what? She didn’t eat her dinner,” Donna Beegle told KOIN 6 News. “I know her, when she gets overhungry or overthirsty, she really struggles because she can’t tell us and she gets really frustrated.” Juliette, a 15-year-old sophomore at Tigard High School, has autism. Beegle said they’ve become very good at anticipating what Juliette needs and how she’ll react to certain things. She said her daughter is “extremely picky” about what she eats, and she asked if there was a hot meal she could buy from the first-class section of the flight.At first, she was told no, she said, and then explained her daughter’s needs. “He said, ‘No, I can’t make an exception.’” Beegle told KOIN 6 News she explained that if her daughter didn’t get a hot meal, she would “get to the meltdown point” and maybe scratch someone. Juliette soon got a first-class meal.

Soon, she said, Juliette – sitting in a window seat –  was calm and watching a video when a cabin announcement told passengers the plane was making an emergency landing in Salt Lake City due to a passenger “in the back of the plane who has behavior issues.” Paramedics came on board and eventually made their way to where the Beegles were sitting. They asked if everything was fine, and the Beegles said yes. “They could see Juliette was sitting there watching her show,” she said.”

Now, the airline is claiming that nuh-uh no way did they kick an autistic kid off their flight just because the kid was autistic. Most passengers, however, have supported Donna Beegle’s version of events. Moreover, there is a video making rounds on the internet showing the now-docile teen being led from the plane by paramedics, who were clearly confused. The guy who taped it, Chris Hall, can be heard to be asked to stop filming by a stewardess, but he resumed filming shortly after wards. On the video, you can hear him and a fellow passenger calling the families eviction “ridiculous” and speculate that the family should file a law suit. You can check out the video here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=12&v=4rOUQjqVnyQ

Donna Beegle was so sure that her daughter had been treated unfairly, that before “leaving the plane, Beegle said she made police take statements from the other passengers. She said one officer told her, “You have a lot of people on your side saying this was not an issue.” 

Mr. Hall, the guy who filmed the removal, said “The child would make noise every now and then, no louder than, say, a baby crying,” Hall told KOIN 6 News. “I don’t think they should have landed a plane for her being fussy.”

However, there was at least one twatwaffle by the name of Marilyn Hedlund who claimed that the the pilot was right to land the plane. “There was a lot of howling, and we thought well, what’s going on? And it never stopped,” Hedlund said.“She wasn’t put off the plane because she had autism, she was put off the plane because she was maybe proposing some kind of a threat, to (about) 170 other people at 36,000 feet, which doesn’t make anyone feel safe,” Hedlund said. “What if she got crazy and got up and opened an exit door at 36,000 feet?”

Well, goodness. I am shocked the other passengers didn’t hear the howling and I assume the video showing a completely quite and cooperative child leave the window seat of the plane was doctored to make Marilyn Hedlund look like a heartless douche who lied/exaggerated to make the kid seem worse than she was. Hmmm … perhaps Marilyn Hedlund would like to explain how exactly was a 15 year old girl, whose biggest crime was becoming agitated and making noise to warn her parents of an impending meltdown, leap from her window seat over both her parents and run faster than anyone could stop her to the emergency door and then get that thing open in mid flight? You know, in defiance of the laws of physics?

“You cannot – repeat, cannot – open the doors or emergency hatches of an airplane in flight.  You can’t open them for the simple reason that cabin pressure won’t allow it.  Think of an aircraft door as a drain plug, fixed in place by the interior pressure.  Almost all aircraft exits open inward.  Some retract upward into the ceiling; others swing outward; but they open inward first, and not even the most musclebound human will overcome the force holding them shut.  At a typical cruising altitude, up to eight pounds of pressure are pushing against every square inch of interior fuselage.  That’s over 1,100 pounds against each square foot of door. Even at low altitudes, where cabin pressure levels are much less, a meager 2 p.s.i. differential is still more than anyone can displace — even after six cups of coffee and the aggravation that comes with sitting behind a shrieking baby.  The doors are further held secure by a series of electrical and/or mechanical latches.”

Basically, Marilyn Hedlund and the pilot of United Airlines flight 1535 assumed autistic teen girls are so dangerous that they can perform superhuman feats of strength to disrupt a flight. Do they think autistic people were exposed to gamma rays and will Hulk-out? And that their imminent Hulkness is preceded by rocking and crying?

Well, Marilyn Hedlund and the pilot of United Airlines flight 1535 are not alone in their ignorance and grotesque inability to sympathize. You should see some of the nasty, holier-than-thou bullshit being said on Facebook and in comments threads. You know, how the parents should have done something about the girl’s “tantrum” (like spanking or smacking her because that is EXACTLY how to help kids with autism) and the pilot was right to get that dangerous not-quite-human teen off the plane for the ‘safety’ of all the good (i.e. normal) people on board.

First, all of those without an autistic child or a Ph.D in developmental psychology who are criticizing the parents can STFU right now. Seriously. Your pie hole is open and your egocentric stupidity is hanging out and none of us want to see it. It’s ugly, just like the rest of your shriveled pseudo-soul.  Also, your breath still smells like brimstone from the last time you sucked Satan off and is turning my stomach.

Secondly, a meltdown is DIFFERENT from a tantrum. Meltdowns are involuntary. They are driven by anxiety and need, not thwarted goals. Learn the difference before you comment, asshats.

Finally, are you planning on condoning the shitty treatment of ALL people with neurological disorders? Who else is getting kicked off a plane because they are “scary”? A veteran with PTSD who can’t stop shaking? Someone with an anxiety attack who is crying the whole flight?  A toddler who is upset? A baby? What the fokk else is “disruptive” enough to land a plane just for distressed NOISES.

Do tell me, people like Marilyn Hedlund and pilot of United Airlines 1535 … who else is “some kind of threat” to you? Cause we’ll be sure to get those people away from your delicate sensibilities lest you be troubled by their imperfections, O Great Ones.

Also, fokk you in the earhole, you callous and misbegotten troglodytes.  

My feeling about people who boycott Girl Scout Cookies

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Deadly Vaccines in Mexico

God Almighty, this is horrible: Two babies have died and two dozen more are hospitalized in Chiapas, Mexico after routine vaccinations for tuberculosis, rotavirus and hepatitis B.

As you all know, I am a supporter for vaccinations of children who don’t have a medical reason to opt out, but THIS SHIT is why I don’t mock “anti-vaxxers”. It’s not like there is nothing to worry about or improve in vaccines.

For example, before the vaccine scare Big Pharma put thermisol in it’s vaccines and no one on the street knew and no one who DID know said a peep; thermisol stopped because of anti-vaxx “hysteria”… i.e. “because of an increasing awareness of the theoretical potential for neurotoxicity of even low levels of organomercurials and because of the increased number of thimerosal containing vaccines that had been added to the infant immunization schedule, concerns about the use of thimerosal in vaccines and other products have been raised. Indeed, because of these concerns, the Food and Drug Administration has worked with, and continues to work with, vaccine manufacturers to reduce or eliminate thimerosal from vaccines.”

I am happy not to be shooting mercury into my child with the vaccines, thank you kindly.

Also, the anti-vaxx crowd has a very solid point that Big Pharma is in the vaccine business for the money. Do you know what Big Pharma companies do to make that bottom line fat? They cut corners and go cheaper not safer. They experiment on kids in developing worlds like they were rats and do not give so much as a gnat’s shit when those kids die.  Pfizer — the company who sent doctors into Nigeria to experiment on and kill kids – did it so it could test a new antibiotic. Pfizer also makes vaccines and I axiomatically do not trust them because they have proven willing and able to kill kids for money.

I cannot help but wonder some Big Pharma company sent an iffy batch of vaccines or some vaccines with experimental preservatives into Chiapas because 93% of the people who live there are poor and Big Pharma didn’t think they’d get ‘caught’ if some brown poor kids got sick.

I would be a fokk-ton happier if vaccines were a “non-profit” industry.

There is no news yet as to what sickened the kids (you have to rule out improperly sterilized equipment and whatnot) but as soon as I know, I’m sure I’ll need to rant about it. Until then, my heart breaks for the families of the babies who have died, and I’ll pray that no more of the sick babies are lost.

Jesus wept. 

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My Sympathies to the UK

Back when George W. Bush actually won enough votes to become president in 2004, a tabloid in the United Kingdom ran this on the front page:

bush on mirror

I was mildly amused (because I disliked Bush as a candidate and am human enough to giggle when those who disagree with me are called ‘dumb’) and mildly offended (because America had been impugned and I am smart enough to know that not all those who disagree with me are ‘dumb’). The UK kept voting for Maggie Thatcher. Their high horse was, in my opinion, a Shetland pony.

Now, after years of appallingly bad political decisions by the Conservative Party (AKA the Tories), the UK went and voted the twatwaffles into power again. That means more “austerity” even though austerity has been proven to have hurt the UK’s economic growth.  Millions have voluntarily submitted themselves to continue being pissed on by the austerity nightmare courtesy of that wanker David Cameron. As for Cameron himself … he is Dubya Lite, the pampered son of a rich tosser with the same pandering to Christian right-wingers, blathering about British exceptionalism, suggesting anyone to the left of himself is a communist, hysterically warning about the “threat” of  adopting European policies in the UK, and being snide about multiculturalism while deluding himself and others that his reinforcement of systemic racism doesn’t make him a racist asshat.

So how did the Tories, whose policies have conservatively (see what I did there) cost every household in Britain thousands of pounds of lost revenue thanks to piss-poor austerity policies, convince people to vote for them? By doing exactly what Dubya’s team did: scare tactics and a negative blitz. By playing up fears that the lefties just don’t hate change and immigrants and Europe enough, Tories got frightened people to vote for the very austerity that is hurting them by assuring them their fiscal pain was REALLY being caused by all those gosh-darn immigrants and free-loaders. They were spreading the same message as Britain First and other racist hate-groups, but doing it softly enough that they could claim plausible deniability of any racist motivation — and by extension so could those who voted for them.

The good news is that Cameron is Dubya Lite. Wherein our former POTUS embraced the Teabaggers with both arms, Cameron and the main body of conservatives are fending off the skank-ranks of Ukip. Cameron told the truth when he called Ukip a bunch of “fruitcakes, loonies and closet racists”.   Cameron also publically recognized that the British National Party was the ideological twin of extremist Muslim groups. Of course, that also made moderates think it was “safe” to vote conservative since Cameron was clearly not aligned with the whackjob racist shitbags of Ukip and the BNP, but I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he meant it.

In further good news, the conservative party of the UK is so far to the left of the American Right Wing that they seem reasonable and capable, even in the face of austerity and their dismantling of the UK social safety net starting with the National Health Services. Tories acknowledge climate change, are at least reasonable about the need for environmentalist measures, support a minimum wage (although that was a fight), do not want bring back the death penalty, aren’t trying to let every child in the country have an AK-47 and six handguns, and aren’t trying to curtail women’s reproductive rights. Compared to America’s far-right politicians, Tories are a bunch of hippies.

Here’s hoping that the coming tax cuts for the rich and the continued austerity for the poor under the Tory regime will bring the UK to its senses, and swing it back to the left.

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